1. FAMILY PATTERN
Family
pattern has a lot of roles to play in relationship and marriage, as you may
know, the spirit controls the physical. These days we don’t always have
interest in doing research to know how our past generations really looked like,
yes am talking about your parents, grandparent and great grand parent , do you
have any ideas about how their marriages were like? Did they have children
outside wedlock or did the women got married to more than one man or how many
wives the men had marry to, these are things must be observed. Polygamy is not
a way of life but a spiritual force that migrates from one generation to
another and when it does it becomes family pattern and then you see history
repeating itself, that’s why you see marriages of these days getting troubled
and broken, so watch it if you or your spouse have such in your linage, then be
ready because the force will always come to fight in different ways to manifest
itself in your generation, an example of it is you see women who ended up
having children and not being under any man at the end of the day, most times one
of their female children always end up like them when they don’t watch it. You
can only win when you recognize it before going into the relationship. Note
that you can stop the manifestation if you go in, but there is always a price
to pay for changing the pattern which is things like lack of happiness for
awhile, tolerance, pains and troubled relationship, so in your quiet time check
up your life and see how you can recognize the real enemy and deal with it.
2. RESPECT
It
is stated clearly that man should love his wife ,while women should be
submissive to their man/husband which is Godly, but I can now understand that
most women of this generation now finds it very easier to respect their pastors
and order women husbands than they would respect their own husband . Hear this,
no matter the size, age or jobless for a while the man can be, it does not make
him less of a man especially if he is the type that is driven by vision. I know
some women will say he has to respect me first because of the nonsense they
call 50-50 shit. But like I always say, treat a real man like your God and he
will be a fool for you. Every home belongs to the woman so if it’s going to
stand nor fall it all depends on the woman of the house. Every man that has an
angel in them also has a beast living inside them so which ever bring out in them is surely what you going to get, though some men can control
the beast from coming out while some let it loose easily. So keep your eyes
open and watch it. Respect your man and learn how to give him his space
whenever he is not in the right mood, don’t go nagging him out to avoid
domestic violence ,prevention is always the best bet, if you can’t understand
your spouse then you should not be with him. Let there be that flame he always
light up in you be his strength not his stress.
3.THIRD PARTY
The third party is always
an enemy that can be anybody that can always come into your life and
relationship to wreck it when you give them the wheels to drive your private
affairs. Whenever you have issues with your spouse, you should talk about it
and sort it out together or see and talk to a professional about it instead of
family or friends who won’t even share a pin of his or her own deep issues with
you but would want to tell you how bad your life can be with your spouse. It’s
always wrong to talk dirt about your spouse to friend or family simply because
you wish to be supported and be told
things you would love to hear, there for reducing your spouse to an image, if
you can’t understand your spouse, then you should not be with them in the
first. The truth is that everyone has his or her owned bad character but how
you manage yours with your spouse’s is what tells how long that relationship is
going to last ,so it’s always better you know what you want from the beginning
because a lot of people have ended up being with the wrong spouse based on
taking action without understand the consequences or being pushed by the very
first reason called [family pattern]. A lot did not marry for love but they
actually thought they did marry for love until the real reason becomes very
obvious and realizing they’ve made a mistake that might even consume them if
not dealt with. Now seat down and take a chill pill and take a deep look to
your relationship or marriage, ask yourself if it’s what you bargained for? If it
is then congratulation but if it’s not the choice is at the door wait for you
to decide how you wish to endup..
